Draft 

“Gaurav, stop it man…I’m not a cry baby!” said Sam politely.

“Oh! is that so? You were also crying at the last film we saw” added Gaurav to support his claims.

“Oh please, I’m a normal person, I get emotional sometimes.That movie was meant for that.Dont you understand?”Sam explained.

“Look , I didn’t shed a drop of tear” said Gaurav proudly.

Sam just laughed and showed a grin on his face. He thought it’s better to keep quiet than to fight over silly things with his best friend.

Gaurav was also not happy doing this, he was concerned about Sam, because he knew how emotional Sam was. Gaurav was in grave thought about what will happen to Sam,who will support him when they are not together.

Sam and Gaurav were small toweners. They were best friends. Shared every secretes with each other, they knew all about each other, they were like brothers to each other. But it’s almost the time when their paths are going to be different.

2

Gaurav got admission in metropolitan city. While Sam decided to persue his further studies in the town itself. His institute was a good one and had specialization subjects.Sam opted one such course which was available in his and very few other institutions.

Sam had very less friends, mostly nodding acquaintances.He was very shy and quiet type of kid since childhood. While Gaurav was a jolly person and had many friends across the town.

Sam had a dog named ‘Buzo’. He was a stray dog which was adopted by Gaurav and Sam when they were 8. They made a cardboard house for him and they fed him for couple of days. In this brief time they developed affection with ‘Buzo’ mostly Sam. One day Buzo didn’t show up. Sam was worried sick about Buzo’s whereabouts. He waited for him to return. But that never happen.

When he was 11 his grandma passed away. He was her little gem. She adored him and loved him.She fulfilled his demands of choclates and snacks. Sam was in emotional trauma. Sam got very emotional and his mind of child unknowingly restrained itself from attachments.

As he grew up he coveted books,he knew books will never leave him. He was turning into introvert. Gaurav constantly tried to help him out. He took him to movies,to bike rides over the time. It’s not that Sam didn’t enjoy it, he enjoyed it. But he never showed interest​ from his side for these fun stuff.

They went to primary school and highschool together but Sam never mingled with others as Sam did, or every other kid for that instance.

Sam loved his books,his small garden,his movie collection.He never gave a thought about investing in other humans.

Most of their classmates left there home for further studies or in search of jobs.Very few stayed in town.Sam chose the course partly because he had his interest in the course and partly he didn’t want to leave the home.

There were so many unfamiliar faces around Sam on his first day. Since the course provided was unique in its nature.Students from nearby cities and also from different parts of country had come. It’s been 2 years since the course has first started and students from different places are living in the town either as paying guests or on rent.

It was the month of june. Rainy season has just started. All outsiders were trying to get accustomed with their new town. It was the best time for Sam beacause he loved the nature and rains, he always loved to stare at that big tree which was at a hill situated away from his house on the other side of river. He loved that tree more in the rainy season.He can sometimes clearly see the clamouring clouds pouring water over it

 

 

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Mental health is the new success

Everyone of us know the intensity of one rising question in this modern age, stress and management of the same. We casually say that Stress is inevitable now a days and everyone has to face it. Most of us are quite accustomed with the idea of Stress Management. It is prevalent. But why ? Maybe it was of less concern couple of years ago, but today it matters than anything else. If you don’t have a sound mind, you can’t have a sound body. Mind at peace is the open secret of healthy lifestyle.

Just having money stashed in your accounts or having big muscular biceps without the mental satisfaction for the same will not heed to the steady composure. Don’t think the world as the Colosseum and you are a gladiator fighting for your life and to impress the spectators with your skills; there is no need for that. Life is actually very simple ,we unnecessarily make it complicated for ourselves. People of this new age are working incessantly for the uncertainties, it seems absurd sometimes. You work relentlessly for days and nights and garner the stress little by little and there’s an eventual breakdown, because the stress had became cumbersome to bear.

We have to address this problem together since individuals from every age group are falling for it. School going children to the elderly people, one can have this breakdown in any of the 4 stages of life ,news show that to us. We can have so many reasons for this, what has changed since past few decades is the boom in communication. Everyone on social media is trying so hard to look happy and with full of enjoyment,but its merely a pretence. Some people have many friends in their virtual friend list but in real life they can not talk to close ones about the troubles they are facing. I believe it is of utmost importance to have human contact ; be it with your friends or family. You have to share your emotions ,its okay to shed a few tears if it is going to sooth your mind and in some cases save your life. The masks we wear only fool ourselves.

Having a wonderful mind is essential in this fast pace life, because if you have a wonderful mind it is less likely that you will lose it facing the stressful situations.So try to nurture your brain with positive thoughts , read good books, try to get closer to the nature, keep some free time for yourself and do nothing in that time, absolutely nothing.Just stare at sky or take a walk every now and then . It helps for sure.You will get the results eventually. What is does is, it takes your mind away from the chaos and gives the correct solution to the problem, which otherwise would have troubled you if you had processed that problem hastily.

Voids

         What should one write that can be considered as novice? There is so much written material available about each and every question which was aroused at one’s mind.

        But still here I am, making an effort. Maybe there is still some room for expansion. Expansion of ideas and perception. Literature is expandable. Every now and then people tend to give their inputs to the preexisting topics. 

         Speaking of expansion, we human beings have so much among ourselves which can be given out to the world. I feel that this giving tendency is somewhat seized in our time. We don’t share anymore. We don’t converse now a days. Most of us listen to others just to counter them and not to comprehend. Just try to listen to others and don’t rush to reply. Let it sit there for a while.  

           Human thoughts and available knowledge is expandable,but what is not expandable is the void in one’s heart. Everyone has a void inside him that cannot be kept as it is, vacant. Everyone tries to fill that void by different means, somebody seeks love and friendship,someone can move out to hobbies and other enjoyable things, someone can fill this void by sharing and communicating with others. Everybody has his own way to not to keep his void empty.

             There are rare cases when the void is completely filled, why it is rare? Because then people will be called complacent and that’s not how life works. Now while looking at the other side; what about the ones who have vacant voids? People not getting love and happiness from surrounding,having no such motives to stay positive in life; such people often have aversion toward the surrounding because they find reasons of their unhappiness in others.Blame game.

            Keeping the void empty for long time can cause serious damage. Knowingly or unknowingly one should not take any part in emptying anyone’s void. Also if you feel your void is getting empty don’t allow it to run dry. Find other means and fill that void. Clinging to the empty ness of your void will not help you, rather it will enervate you. Finding alternatives and trying to fill that vessel of void with them will help you and your heart to heal.

        Garner good habits and hobbies that are recreational and that will never make your void go completely empty if ever situation comes. You’ll always have something to look upon. You’ll always have a zeal to face any situation good or bad. So believe in yourself and stay flexible. Rigidity might not always help. Learn to let go. 

Opinions

         Wordpress says share your story here…Okay WordPress I will share my story here…but I don’t know if I have a story to tell….I think I’ll have one when the time comes. Till then bear with my imagination and the conclusions I draw from life.

     Are these conclusions Stories? It’s hard to answer this question by myself. The things we feel,the things we observe are merely the conscious mind feeding the inputs to our subconscious. Those are not stories; those are perceptions. These perceptions are concealed in my mind. Rather everybody has his or her opinions about the world and the people of the world. 

            Everybody draws something from day to day experiences. Everyone thinks about things they go through. Some people notice very minor details,some people always go for the big picture ; It’s all about POVs. Having opinion is as important as respecting other person’s opinion. Everybody thinks differently.You can’t compare people based on their way of forming opinions.

         People form rigid opinions when they are vulnerable. People tend to think extremely when they are very happy or in great sorrow. You can’t manipulate one’s staunch beliefs generated in such an emotional way. People often judge and misjudge situations and other human beings in extreme emotional interference.

            I personally hate to have alone time when I’m trying out something new, I want to be busy and occupied all the time. If ever I get my mind empty, I usually go over the things which may have bothered me in sometimes before. I overthink. I start to think about future,about my relationships with close ones and what not. This can lead to change in opinions over some matters.That I generally don’t want to happen. I want to be stubborn. In a way I don’t want to accept new developments though thinking and analyzing situations can lead to the obvious truth; and which is often far from the preassumptions.
             

Comfort Zone

       Most of us, the people from middle class had most of our needs fulfilled since the childhood. The basic needs for human survival as well as the supplementary desires disguised as needs. Since childhood we were protected. We felt protected. I’m expressing on the behalf of my peers,who feel the similar way; not necessarily the same way.

         We had good education,good entertainment like TV and Internet. It’s not like it is everything ,but it was comfy. Living with parents having them to buy things for you seemed okay. 

       We never had a feeling to breach out from this comfort zone.We never wanted ourselves to be vulnerable.Most of us don’t know that,we have a ceiling above us ,a ceiling which has a clear sky beyond it. Sky of opportunities. But we are just ignoring it for the sake of losing our comfort. It’s with most of us. Very few are exceptions, who do something exceptional and break this ceiling from the force within them. 

       Time comes when we all have to crawl away from this zone.Those who manage to get out of this knowing the need of time, will get benefitted for sure. It is not necessary to chose a perfect or practical decision for your life, but it should be your own decision and you should be able to implement it with your whole heart.

       Nobody knows what will happen next.Nobody can plan their life. You just have to hope. You just have to break the ceiling for once. You have to leave this comfort zone for once and you will introduce yourself to the clear skies.Those who don’t want to leave the comfort zone, don’t want to take risk, they are just stuck there, waiting for someone to rescue them; not knowing the ceiling can only be broken from the inside.

Self Motivation????

       Self doubts mingling in between the decision making process sometimes prove very harmful,that they sometimes appear to be irreversible.To grow out of it is quite a difficult task,but anyone knowing that he is consumed by self doubts and negative thoughts should consider himself lucky that atleast he knows what the problem is.

       Knowing the real problem will help in finding out the solution, and that solution will not be temporary;It will be a permanent one.

       Every person has self doubts atleast once in his lifetime,maybe due to failures or feeling of incompetance in any matter.There are times when nothing seems right.Everything you came across doesn’t seem to be doing any good to you. You start questioning yourself and your decisions not in an evaluating way but for the sake of doubting yourself.

           This can prove to be a bad patch in ones life. But you have to be focused and firm at your soul and have to asses the problem in hand to get benefited from the situation itself.Remember you are improving day by day. Tomorrow will be different than today.You just have to work hard and have to invest in yourself for your own betterment. Rome was not build in one day,Likewise don’t expect your life to change overnight.Get yourself out of your comfort zone.

          You are going to face so many such challenging situations, so many disapprovals,so many negative people discouraging you.. This is part and parcel of the life.Don’t get bothered by it..Grow out of it.. Remember there will be opportunities waiting for you,Welcome them warm heartedly.

Know the problem,Work the problem,Solve the problem!
There is nothing that can bring you down other than you…Never Give Up ! 

Stay motivated ! REMEMBER YOU WILL CONQUER THE WORLD.

All that will matter

           Don’t you feel nostalgic when you think about school or college days and the moments you cherished with your loved ones. It’s mostly about the people you were surrounded with at that times. You are lucky if you have those same friends with whom you can laugh at those memories. It’s one of the best feeling.I consider myself lucky. Touchwood.

        I’ll not be the same person after couple of years or I was not the same person 2,3 years ago to what I am today. Change is inevitable. Change is the most permanent thing. You will understand what I’m saying if you observe your life closely.Things change,people change. Deal with it.You have to adjust with the new circumstances and possibilities.
        Growing up we meet lots of people some of them stick together some of them don’t. It’s life. You can’t force anybody to like you or you can’t do the same to everybody. Respect the people who stick with you no matter what. There are happy days and rough days, if they are tolerating you in both the situations; you should never let them go.

        In this fast age life you may lose touch with someone you care about. Or somedays you may feel left out. One should understand that life is not that simple now a days. Everyone is struggling. But real friends find there way out to meet up and catch up. Because they have gone through a lot together. They value it. They know every detail about each other and that makes them real.

          As you grow old nobody asks you about how much you scored in degree exam or what was your salary when you retired. But they will ask you how is your health ? How are friends and family ? So invest in them. Spend more time with them. Spend more time in improving your mental and physical health. It is all that will matter in future.

       

        

Ego and attitude

              Most people confuse ego with attitude. The meaning of ego is ‘I’. It’s healthy to have an attitude but it’s unhealthy to have an ego. When you care about somebody you try to make peace with that person after misunderstandings. It’s general trend. If you are egoistic , you may hold yourself back and you’ll look for that somebody to come to you.

       If both of the individuals are angry on each other and they are not considering the option of reconciliation then we can say that they don’t care for each other or the term ego is involved in this case.

            Sometimes you have to give time to each other after quarrels and fights. If there is too much involvement involved then it can get quite depressing at times. Because you start asking questions to yourself. Sometimes you don’t understand what went wrong.   

       Attitude is your ideology towards life. How you behave,how you treat people,how you handle tough situations. If you have your life sorted and if you know your priorities,then you can take your decisions accordingly; that’s an attitude.

           Ego and attitude are different than each other because; in case of an Ego you only think about yourself and in case of Attitude there is room for everyone you care. Attitude is more flexible term. It varies with person to person. While the term ego is same for everyone.

       Gracias!

Live the real life

           Are you the type of a person who listens to the music while showering? I used to be a bathroom singer. I still do that sometimes. But mostly I listen to my cellphone now a days. It feels relaxing and helpful. 

           We are so consumed by the internet and mobile phones , I feel lonely almost instantaneously when I step into shower. This should not happen, I guess. But can’t help it. So I tune the music on to fill the void created by the absence of my virtual world. We are so doomed by the social networking and internet addiction that reality don’t bother us anymore.

         The urge to keep yourself occupied with one thing or another, suggest that you are too afraid to just sit and do nothing. This can put thoughts in your mind and maybe you are running away from the thoughts. Maybe you are running away from your day to day problems and seeking happiness in social media. 

        But is it helping ? You have to ask this question to yourself. You have to know your real life is and your plan to improve it. There are times when you feel lonely and sad and your phone is your only companion. But you have to grow out of it, don’t get overly attached to it. 

          Overindulgence of anything has it’s own circumstances. There are so many things you can discover in the life.Try to live life without these fancy gadgets for once and you will feel different.Maybe you’ll start bathroom singing again😉

Gracias!

Faith

            Faith is the most deceiving word. How can one just rely on things to turn around. Isn’t it the meaning of faith? To rely on the future. 

   Keep faith! they say, not knowing the fact that the process of keeping faith can be dreadful. An individual losing every hope for achieving something may look for a miracle. Everybody hope for miracle but nobody wants to believe in Magic. 

       I feel Optimism and Faith are completely different terms. Optimistic people are those who do things honestly, give there 100 % and wait for positive outcomes.While faith is just a terminology which wants you to believe in life. Hope is more closer to faith than to optimism. Hope and faith both are philosophical.

           It’s both good and bad to keep faith. Because when you are strangled in some situation you can not resolve. You have to keep faith because anything else would not rescue you. You just have to hang in there. In that case you are not being optimistic but you are keeping faith in your life.

        Being optimistic will lead you to think about the positive end results, while if you kept faith it gives you the idea of things being turnt around the way you want. Not positive or negative; Just in the way they are meant to be.

Gracias!